" (Lazimnya) perempuan-perempuan yang jahat adalah untuk lelaki-lelaki yang jahat, dan lelaki-lelaki yang jahat untuk perempuan-perempuan yang jahat; dan (sebaliknya)perempuan-perempuan yang baik untuk lelaki-lelaki yang baik, dan lelaki-lelaki yangbaik untuk perempuan-perempuan yang baik. Mereka (yang baik) itu adalah bersih dari(tuduhan buruk) yang dikatakan oleh orang-orang (yang jahat); mereka (yang baik) ituakan beroleh pengampunan (dari Allah) dan pengurniaan yang mulia. "Surah An Nur 24:26
The verse was cited from the Quran and from my point of view, it's used commonly.
The problem is, some people misunderstands or barely understand it.
The thing I'm bringing up in this post is mainly about finding The One.
Wait, first of all, open up your minds, whether you're in a relationship or not.
Now, let's get to business *serious face* hehe.
Alright, what's the point of us living in this world? I hope you get the answer right. Now let's get to the next question. Why are you changing or always trying to upgrade your Iman?
That is where some people get it wrong.
They always say " Good guys are for good girls" and vice versa. When you are holding on to this only sentence, you might get your Niat wrong. Why? Because suddenly it's not because of Him that you want to change, but it's because of him. Get it?
Being religious, pious, good or anything positive, it's not about trying to find your Mr. Right or Mrs. Right. It's about gaining the love from Allah. May all of us be in Allah's blessing. Amin.
Let me give you an example, Rabiatul Adawiyah. Sounds familiar? Yeah, she's the one who didn't get married because of her undoubted love towards Allah. If you read on her stories, you'll get goosebumps.
Based on her story, we can know that true love lies between us and Allah. Therefore stop saying " I wanna be good, so I can find my Imam" or maybe " I wanna find my Imam to lead me" . It's not that it's completely wrong, it's just that your Niat might be strayed and all that you did was just a waste. Nauzubillah.
Be good because you want to. Be pious because you want to. And why do you want all that? Because you want to be a good Muslim. The best if possible. And you crave for Allah's love. :)
If we read back all the Sirah, Allah have given every single example we need to be any kind of human being. Be it a single mom, a wife, a daughter, a single lady, a servant and so forth.
Don't get me wrong, if you already find your love, that's good. And it's better if you sow the love in the Halal way. The best is when you do it because you want Allah to Redha or approve of it. InsyaAllah, happy selalu. :D
Hey, this post is not just for the ladies. Guys, you people need some pondering to do too.
So, in a nutshell, let's renew our Niat. Let's always hope for Allah's love and care which is like, incomparable to anything :O hehe.
May all of us always be in Allah's blessing. Amin. ^_^
p/s : When it's time, it'll happen. Don't sweat it :)